Why can't we organize?

I see so many different organizations dedicated to helping divorced fathers and I think that shows there is a concern for all those men that are facing the same difficult circumstances but what I really can't figure out is how do those smaller organizations come together and create a larger organization that will have some real visibility. Optimally, it would be a wonderful world where fathers would receive equal treatment in the court system in terms of custody, support and enforceable visitation, where the stigma of being a divorced father does not make you a child molester and where the subsequent family does not need to adhere to the whims of the first wife. In order to achieve this optimal world a concerted and monumental effort would be required on the part of not only divorced men but married men as well. It would include the support of second wives, mothers and sisters who recognize that the man they know is not a bad person and is capable of parenting if someone would give him a chance.

How do we organize so that we can prove that the "deadbeat dad" is a small percentage of the divorced father population and that the rest of us should not be judged based on the actions of those men?

How do we organize and create a voice that will speak on behalf of the next generation males that will invariably find themselves in this type of situation?

How do we organize so that good, responsible "parents" are treated with the respect they deserve?

I don't have the answers to those questions but we should think about them. Like America's perception about race has changed we need to change people's perception of fatherhood. Like the first civil rights activists we need to make our presence known and we need to let people see we are not what you have been told all this time. We are GOOD, RESPONSIBLE and HARD WORKING people who love our families!

I hope that I will see a time when this is the case because I have two son's and I wouldn't want them to endure the pain that I have.

Good night all.