Second Wives

I know this blog is suppose to be about dads but I think we need to take a moment and give credit to our second wives. I am aware that they come into a situation with fully knowledge of what is occuring but I don't think anybody can ever be fully prepared for the difficulties that accompany this situation. When they meet us we are "damaged goods". We no longer trust the good in people and they fight to gain that from us. The second wife's wants and needs many times have to take a back seat to the child from the previous marriage. Many times the first wife can be demanding and at times unreasonable and the second wife generally has no say. It must be frustrating for her but her love for her husband keeps her by his side supporting him in spite of many stressful situations.

I love and appreciate my second wife with all my soul. I believe that the obstacles created by having a former family were a catalyst for bringing us closer and solidifying our bond. I think we learned together to appreciate the quiet times and to cherish our children in a way we might not have been able to before.

For those who have shared this type of experience, I think we should stand and applaud the women who love us enough to endure the painful struggles with us. We should be thankful that these women have been brought into our lives. And we should show them our appreciation as often as possible.

Those are my thoughts!