I wasn't Crazy!

There was a time when I thought I was the crazy one. I felt like my concerns as a parent did not count but my responsibility to provide on-going support was unquestionable. I didn't have to know my child's grades in school but be late or miss a child support payment and there was a jail cell with my name on it and the label "deadbeat dad" is not easily shaken regardless of the reason. The funny thing was that I had joint custody which amounted to no rights anyway.

I found a piece that confirmed my feelings and told me that my doubts were warranted. I have included the url (http://www.dadi.org/braver.htm) for this piece below and encourage you to read it. It will make you feel better to know that you are not the only one who feels the way you do.

I hope that you get to spend a nice holiday with your children and I wish you the best for the holiday season and the new year!.

God Bless!

What if she were a DAD?

I have spent months following the case of Caylee Anthony who is a three year old girl from Florida that has been missing since June. It is a shame because it now appears that she may have been found deceased. The remains that are believed to be hers were found in an area very close to her grandparents home. It also appears that the person who took her life was her mother, Casey. I am sure that as the case progresses that the women's rights groups will come out in defense of this woman. They will claim stress, chemical imbalance or depression. What would happen if the killer were her father? Could he expect the same attempt at understanding his motivation? I don't think so.

I am not afraid to say that I think she deserves the same treatment as her male counterpart would. I would hope that if it determined that she was the killer that she be given the death penalty. That would not advance father's rights but it might prove that women are receiving equal treatment for the same crimes. That would be a start.

Have a great evening.

Be well!

Who is the dad?

Although this particular blog is suppose to be about divorce fathers and their issues, I write another blog (http://whosmybabysdaddy.blogspot.com/) whose subject is entwined with this subject. The question, "Who is the baby's daddy?" is a BIG one with several ramifications. It parallels this one because it is about establishing right as well as responsibilities. It is about providing a child with the opportunity to know and experience their respective cultures and traditions. I tend to be serious about these subjects because I was a divorced father and had to deal with the issues that go along with that but I think that men who are not certain they are the father have the same types of issues and the same feeling of powerlessness. I believe that paternity should be established at birth and this way everybody knows going in what are the rights and responsibilities. It is my hope that the treatment of these men will begin to push the courts in a direction that more fairly distributes the rights and responsibilities of the fathers.

Please let me know what you think. This is a hard subject.

Talk to you soon!